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Unsystematic Theology: How Much Should Christians Tip?

Unsystematic Theology: How Much Should Christians Tip?

How much should a Christian tip? That might seem like kind of a wacky question, though I’ve been asked it before. If you read much theology, you’ll cover topics like Incarnation and Ineffability and Predestination and Hypostasis. Lessons in Tipping don’t come up often except, well, in the real world. The question is on everyone’s […]

How Does Jesus Love You?

How Does Jesus Love You?

In May 2010, Hillary McFarland invited me to write a guest post for her lovely website Quivering Daughters, which offered healing for victims of Spiritual Abuse within the so-called “Biblical Patriarchy” movement. Not knowing at the time that this would turn into an unlikely recurring ministry for me over the next two years, I decided to get a […]

The Things We Want to Sing About

The Things We Want to Sing About

This is my contribution to Rachel Held Evans’ Rally to Restore Unity. Read about it at the link. Augustus Toplady was, frankly, a bit of a jerk. He was an evangelical Anglican clergyman with a strong Calvinist bent. If he lived today he’d certainly be one of those Calvinists, the kind who write annoyingly combative blogs ranting […]

The Bondage of Betrothal

The Bondage of Betrothal

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters. One of the fundamental teachings of the Biblical Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements is the doctrine of “biblical courtship,” or “betrothal.” (My brother suggested the word “casuistries” instead of “teachings,” which is perfect except that I didn’t know it before, either.) This teaching has it that since a father […]

Reader Question: Should Christians Celebrate Birthdays?

Reader Question: Should Christians Celebrate Birthdays?

(or, Beagles, the Bible, and Birthdays) Ali writes: Have you written on “birthdays?” My parents taught us the bible teaches that birthday celebrations are wrong and selfish. I remember King Herod being an example. I also was the example for my younger sisters as on my 6th birthday I acted selfish and ungrateful and I […]

Duck? Duck? Goose.

Duck? Duck? Goose.

This is the first in what we hope will be a weekly series of articles at the lovely website Quivering Daughters. If you like this kind of thing or need some encouragement, especially from Spiritual Abuse, check them out! If you're coming here by way of QD, welcome, and why not subscribe?   *   *   […]

Reader Question: Did Jesus Teach Legalism?

Reader Question: Did Jesus Teach Legalism?

Site reader and frequent commenter OneSurvivor (who by the way has quite a good blog on abuse-related issues) has rediscovered the best way to get me to write a post: Ask me a good question! No really, do; it gets me talking like nothing else. She recently sent in this comment: I have to ask. […]

In Search of the Ideal Proverbs 31 Single Man

In Search of the Ideal Proverbs 31 Single Man

By Eric M. Pazdziora Once upon a time on Mother’s Day, the preacher at whatever church we were attending made this remark: “Proverbs 31 has been used, probably more than any other passage of Scripture, to beat women over the head.” One can certainly see his point.  How many times have we seen women struggling […]

Guest post on "Quivering Daughters"

Guest post on “Quivering Daughters”

Well, well. It’s been too long since I’ve posted anything here, due mostly to the general busyness of life and work. (When you edit eight hours a day, it’s sometimes a bit hard to work up the energy to write in your leisure time.) That however didn’t stop frequent commenter Abigail from surprising me with […]