Quivering Daughters

How Does Jesus Love You?

How Does Jesus Love You?

In May 2010, Hillary McFarland invited me to write a guest post for her lovely website Quivering Daughters, which offered healing for victims of Spiritual Abuse within the so-called “Biblical Patriarchy” movement. Not knowing at the time that this would turn into an unlikely recurring ministry for me over the next two years, I decided to get a […]

What It's All About

What It’s All About

This weekend, an anonymous commenter left this message on my most recent post on Quivering Daughters, a piece debunking legalistic teachings about clothing, entitled Garments of Salvation. Needless to say, I was completely floored and left pretty close to tears. I seldom see such a deeply touching reminder of why I do pretty much everything […]

Garments of Salvation

Garments of Salvation

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of […]

The Bondage of Betrothal

The Bondage of Betrothal

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters. One of the fundamental teachings of the Biblical Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements is the doctrine of “biblical courtship,” or “betrothal.” (My brother suggested the word “casuistries” instead of “teachings,” which is perfect except that I didn’t know it before, either.) This teaching has it that since a father […]

Just As You Received Christ....

Just As You Received Christ….

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters Suppose you asked someone what the Gospel is: how does a person receive salvation in Christ? How would you respond if the answer was… “The Gospel is the good news that we have to keep all of God’s Laws and rules, because there’s no salvation apart from trying […]

Clean

Clean

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters I have felt dirty and unworthy of a clean slate with God ever since my experience, ever since that meeting with Mrs. H—, this feeling has plagued me for years…. The struggle that has lingered from my TM days is guilt. –Anna (on Recovering Alumni) Everybody’s felt that. […]

Reader Question: Should Christians Celebrate Birthdays?

Reader Question: Should Christians Celebrate Birthdays?

(or, Beagles, the Bible, and Birthdays) Ali writes: Have you written on “birthdays?” My parents taught us the bible teaches that birthday celebrations are wrong and selfish. I remember King Herod being an example. I also was the example for my younger sisters as on my 6th birthday I acted selfish and ungrateful and I […]

"Gloria" and Why to Sing It: Two Links of Note

“Gloria” and Why to Sing It: Two Links of Note

I didn’t write either of these things. A small, mostly selfish part of me wishes I had. The rest of me is too happy to care, because you get to see them on any terms. The first is called “Going Back.” Jon Acuff writes the hilarious and devastatingly honest blog “Stuff Christians Like,” which intersperses […]

The True Meaning of Christmas Trees: The Spiritual Abuse Connection

The True Meaning of Christmas Trees: The Spiritual Abuse Connection

First published Christmas 2009; newly updated for Quivering Daughters. I think I finally figured out what Christmas trees are really about. A while ago I found a blog article on the subject of our friend Mr. Tannenbaum. Apparently (the author observed) some folks believe that Christmas trees are pagan symbols that the church has adopted […]