Bible Study

The Bondage of Betrothal

The Bondage of Betrothal

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters. One of the fundamental teachings of the Biblical Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements is the doctrine of “biblical courtship,” or “betrothal.” (My brother suggested the word “casuistries” instead of “teachings,” which is perfect except that I didn’t know it before, either.) This teaching has it that since a father […]

Clean

Clean

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters I have felt dirty and unworthy of a clean slate with God ever since my experience, ever since that meeting with Mrs. H—, this feeling has plagued me for years…. The struggle that has lingered from my TM days is guilt. –Anna (on Recovering Alumni) Everybody’s felt that. […]

Antidotes to Spiritual Abuse

Antidotes to Spiritual Abuse

Newly updated and expanded for Quivering Daughters. First published here September 26, 2009. Guilt, shame, and condemnation. Unspoken rules you have to live up to. Authoritarian leaders you can’t ever question. An exclusive “us-vs.-them” mentality. Subtle or not-so-subtle pressure to fit in. Barely veiled manipulation and peer pressure tactics. Fear of doing the wrong thing. Public […]

God's Prescription for Your Discouragement

God’s Prescription for Your Discouragement

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters I've been saving this for a rainy day, and I think it's gotten sufficiently damp. This got its start a few years ago as a comment on someone else's blog post and quickly gained a life of its own. The blog post in question was written by a […]

When Rest is Hard

When Rest is Hard

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters ast week, Carrie got a cold. It was the kind of cold where medicine doesn’t really do much; until it gets better, you just have to wait, take some time off, and rest. The problem is that Carrie prefers to be active, so she’s not used to having […]

Turn Your Eyes Upon...

Turn Your Eyes Upon…

Another in my weekly series for Quivering Daughters funny thing happens when you spend time with someone. When I was in college, I studied music with a composer named Edwin Childs. I had several classes and weekly lessons with him, absorbing as much knowledge as I possibly could. Music theory, harmony, counterpoint, hymnology, you name […]

Broken

Broken

Another in my weekly series for Quivering Daughters broken arm is painful. A broken glass is dangerous. A broken mirror is unlucky. A broken heart is depressing. A broken toy is sad. A broken promise is wrong. So it’s strange that some well-meaning devotional writers tell us that spiritual brokenness is something we should aspire […]

Martha, Martha: In Which the Author Fails to Get the Point

Martha, Martha: In Which the Author Fails to Get the Point

  Another in my weekly series for Quivering Daughters   he joke’s on me. I was thinking and praying about my topic for this week, and one story just wouldn’t get out of my head—Mary and Martha. We all know it, it’s really simple, but sometimes it does us a world of good to go […]

Godly Authority: A Flight to Topsyturvydom

Godly Authority: A Flight to Topsyturvydom

Another in my weekly series of articles for Quivering Daughters. oet and playwright W. S. Gilbert (you might know him from his operettas composed with Arthur Sullivan) wrote some comic poems about the far-away land of Topsyturvydom: Where vice is virtue—virtue, vice: Where nice is nasty—nasty, nice: Where right is wrong and wrong is right— […]