Spiritual Abuse

The Myth of the Lukewarm Christian

The Myth of the Lukewarm Christian

Another in my series of weekly posts for Quivering Daughters here’s this sermon I’ve heard a few dozen times. You’ve probably heard it too. It goes like this. Some Christians are really passionate and sold out for the Lord. They do great things. They live ri­ghteously. They don’t do anything that could be considered worldly. […]

The Best Road

The Best Road

or, If God Has a Wonderful Plan for My Life, Why Am I Suffering? From my files: September 2008. My long-time readers know that the best way to get a post out of me is for somebody to ask me a thoughtful question.  That hasn’t happened as much lately as it used to, but the […]

Giving Up Self-Denial for Lent?

Giving Up Self-Denial for Lent?

Today on a blog that discusses issues of spiritual abuse– the blog in question is directed to survivors of a high-control group that puts a lot of emphasis on finding God through physical suffering, righteous living, and other forms of legalism– a very interesting question was raised in this post: If you purposely choose to […]

Interview with "The Paradoxes of Mr. Pond"

Interview with “The Paradoxes of Mr. Pond”

As you might have noticed, I haven’t had too much time for writing lately, being absurdly busy with work and life. But somewhere in the past few weeks, I did find time to sit down with an up-and-coming blogger known as Mr. Pond for a discussion on music, writing, faith, spiritual abuse, and many other […]

"I Have a Sign": Answering Spiritual Abusers According to Their Folly

“I Have a Sign”: Answering Spiritual Abusers According to Their Folly

“Are you looking for a sign from God? This is it.” — seen on too many church signs In the popular imagination, Fred Phelps and the Westboro Baptist “Church” probably deserve their status as the archetypal hateful ultra-fundamentalist spiritual abusers. (They’re the ones who popularized the infamous slogan, “God hates [anti-homosexual slur redacted]s.”) For reasons […]

"You Might Be a Sadducee If…"

“You Might Be a Sadducee If…”

[From my archives.] Ah, those good old Pharisees.  They’ve been dead and gone for centuries, yet we never tire of talking about the dangers of their beliefs.  I’ve lost count of the number of sermons I’ve heard, articles I’ve seen, and books I’ve read that in some way or another caution the Christians of modern […]

Hypocriticism II: Blessed are the Disillusioned

Hypocriticism II: Blessed are the Disillusioned

This is a follow-up to my post “Hypocriticism”. Only, it was pretty old, and when I went back and re-read it just now, having done a lot more study about Spiritual Abuse over the past several years, I realized that it was rather appallingly clumsily written. Let’s just say it featured the phrase “bitter about the church.” So […]

Hypocriticism

Hypocriticism

When I was in high school, I worked under a man who for some reason didn’t like me.  So he decided to sabotage my career.  He spread false stories about me behind my back, saying that I wasn’t a good worker.  He insulted me in front of my friends.  He managed to get me written […]

John Newton: Degrees in Glory

John Newton: Degrees in Glory

Background: My brother, knowing my love for all things hymnology, got me a volume of the Letters of John Newton for my birthday this year. It’s less about the origin of hymns such as “Amazing Grace” and more about the amazing grace that made up a part of his day-to-day thought and discussion. In this […]