Spiritual Abuse

Recommended Reading: SisterLisa responds on betrothal

Recommended Reading: SisterLisa responds on betrothal

The response to my Quivering Daughters article "The Bondage of Betrothal" has been slightly overwhelming! Many, many kind thanks to all of you who've shared it on Facebook and Twitter and everywhere else, and thanks to all of you who've commented and emailed your thoughts and reactions. Over at the website Soul Liberty Faith, my online […]

The Bondage of Betrothal

The Bondage of Betrothal

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters. One of the fundamental teachings of the Biblical Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements is the doctrine of “biblical courtship,” or “betrothal.” (My brother suggested the word “casuistries” instead of “teachings,” which is perfect except that I didn’t know it before, either.) This teaching has it that since a father […]

Clean

Clean

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters I have felt dirty and unworthy of a clean slate with God ever since my experience, ever since that meeting with Mrs. H—, this feeling has plagued me for years…. The struggle that has lingered from my TM days is guilt. –Anna (on Recovering Alumni) Everybody’s felt that. […]

Reader Question: Should Christians Celebrate Birthdays?

Reader Question: Should Christians Celebrate Birthdays?

(or, Beagles, the Bible, and Birthdays) Ali writes: Have you written on “birthdays?” My parents taught us the bible teaches that birthday celebrations are wrong and selfish. I remember King Herod being an example. I also was the example for my younger sisters as on my 6th birthday I acted selfish and ungrateful and I […]

The True Meaning of Christmas Trees: The Spiritual Abuse Connection

The True Meaning of Christmas Trees: The Spiritual Abuse Connection

First published Christmas 2009; newly updated for Quivering Daughters. I think I finally figured out what Christmas trees are really about. A while ago I found a blog article on the subject of our friend Mr. Tannenbaum. Apparently (the author observed) some folks believe that Christmas trees are pagan symbols that the church has adopted […]

Antidotes to Spiritual Abuse

Antidotes to Spiritual Abuse

Newly updated and expanded for Quivering Daughters. First published here September 26, 2009. Guilt, shame, and condemnation. Unspoken rules you have to live up to. Authoritarian leaders you can’t ever question. An exclusive “us-vs.-them” mentality. Subtle or not-so-subtle pressure to fit in. Barely veiled manipulation and peer pressure tactics. Fear of doing the wrong thing. Public […]

Sheep Story

Sheep Story

Another in my series for Quivering Daughters The best thing ever written on spiritual abuse is a poem about sheep. I haven’t got many sheep in my neighborhood—the picture here is one we took in Ireland—but every word in this poem is so true it aches. Someone once asked me, when you hear stories of […]

Broken

Broken

Another in my weekly series for Quivering Daughters broken arm is painful. A broken glass is dangerous. A broken mirror is unlucky. A broken heart is depressing. A broken toy is sad. A broken promise is wrong. So it’s strange that some well-meaning devotional writers tell us that spiritual brokenness is something we should aspire […]

Godly Authority: A Flight to Topsyturvydom

Godly Authority: A Flight to Topsyturvydom

Another in my weekly series of articles for Quivering Daughters. oet and playwright W. S. Gilbert (you might know him from his operettas composed with Arthur Sullivan) wrote some comic poems about the far-away land of Topsyturvydom: Where vice is virtue—virtue, vice: Where nice is nasty—nasty, nice: Where right is wrong and wrong is right— […]