Jesus Isn’t Like That

Antidotes to Spiritual Abuse

Antidotes to Spiritual Abuse

Newly updated and expanded for Quivering Daughters. First published here September 26, 2009. Guilt, shame, and condemnation. Unspoken rules you have to live up to. Authoritarian leaders you can’t ever question. An exclusive “us-vs.-them” mentality. Subtle or not-so-subtle pressure to fit in. Barely veiled manipulation and peer pressure tactics. Fear of doing the wrong thing. Public […]

Turn Your Eyes Upon...

Turn Your Eyes Upon…

Another in my weekly series for Quivering Daughters funny thing happens when you spend time with someone. When I was in college, I studied music with a composer named Edwin Childs. I had several classes and weekly lessons with him, absorbing as much knowledge as I possibly could. Music theory, harmony, counterpoint, hymnology, you name […]

Godly Authority: A Flight to Topsyturvydom

Godly Authority: A Flight to Topsyturvydom

Another in my weekly series of articles for Quivering Daughters. oet and playwright W. S. Gilbert (you might know him from his operettas composed with Arthur Sullivan) wrote some comic poems about the far-away land of Topsyturvydom: Where vice is virtue—virtue, vice: Where nice is nasty—nasty, nice: Where right is wrong and wrong is right— […]

Reader Question: Did Jesus Teach Legalism?

Reader Question: Did Jesus Teach Legalism?

Site reader and frequent commenter OneSurvivor (who by the way has quite a good blog on abuse-related issues) has rediscovered the best way to get me to write a post: Ask me a good question! No really, do; it gets me talking like nothing else. She recently sent in this comment: I have to ask. […]

Guest post on "Quivering Daughters"

Guest post on “Quivering Daughters”

Well, well. It’s been too long since I’ve posted anything here, due mostly to the general busyness of life and work. (When you edit eight hours a day, it’s sometimes a bit hard to work up the energy to write in your leisure time.) That however didn’t stop frequent commenter Abigail from surprising me with […]

The Misadventures of Person C, or, Why Couldn't God Just Forgive Us?

The Misadventures of Person C, or, Why Couldn’t God Just Forgive Us?

There’s a lot on my mind lately, but, though it’s not really a great pressing concern to me, I keep coming back to one particular issue.  Perhaps that means it will be illuminating to somebody, so here it is. From several places, I’ve heard what appears to be a common objection to the Gospel message: […]

Five People You Won't Meet in Heaven (And One You Might)

Five People You Won’t Meet in Heaven (And One You Might)

by Eric M. Pazdziora Many different people believe that if you are a Christian you will go to heaven… If this is so, that means that Fred Phelps will go to heaven. When you consider that non-Christians don't, that would mean that Phelps would go but not Princess Di and M. Gandhi. Is this fair? […]

God's Little Instruction Book?

God’s Little Instruction Book?

A lot of people seem to read the Bible this way: [Note: that’s apparently an actual book, oddly enough, but the following is not any kind of review or comment on it; I haven’t read it and don’t plan to.] God’s Little Instruction Book. Sounds pretty good, no? You want to know what to do […]

Hypocriticism II: Blessed are the Disillusioned

Hypocriticism II: Blessed are the Disillusioned

This is a follow-up to my post “Hypocriticism”. Only, it was pretty old, and when I went back and re-read it just now, having done a lot more study about Spiritual Abuse over the past several years, I realized that it was rather appallingly clumsily written. Let’s just say it featured the phrase “bitter about the church.” So […]